Like every other belief that has been doing the rounds for time eternal, I have my own debate with this one, too.
Forgive. For your peace. Whether you have received an apology, explanation, closure or not, make the choice to forgive. Another person’s actions determine their state of mind, not yours. Don’t clutter your life and mind space by harboring negative thoughts and holding grudges.
Forget. For your peace. If you can. Or choose to remember if that brings you peace. I have observed that though I tend to forgive, I keep certain episodes with me. I can be vulnerable once. However, being hurt twice for the same reason by the same person will prove me to be a fool! Over time, I have built my ability to remember negative experiences without being bitter about the past anymore. This has helped me heal. Choose what helps you heal.
Move on. If you want to- whether it is from the person or from the incident; this HAS TO BE your choice and no one else’s. Don’t cloud your judgment based on the suggestions others offer. The best advice in your interest will always come straight from your heart and mind. Have faith in the choices you make.
If your choice has enabled you to disconnect from a person/ situation that brought you pain, let the disconnect remain. We give undue importance to “reconnecting” and “giving multiple chances”. Don't follow a norm. Pick an option that brings you peace and stick with the choice- in easy times and tough times.
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